Bob Parsons 16 rules of success
Bob Parsons 16 rules of success were the first thing I read about 10 years ago, when I was still a baby 😛 that woke up the philosopher and explorer in me. To this day I still have a poster of all Bob Parsons 16 rules of success on my desk.
I try not to treat them as rules, more like a guidance, but I think I work best when I have plan and structure and Bob’s rules do the trick. It seems you can relate them to any situation, so this post will show you how I see them applied to fitness. Today’s focus: first half of Bob Parsons 16 rules of success. Sorry I kept repeating this but this is for my SEO so you can all find me in this big internet 😛
- Get and stay out of your comfort zone. I believe that not much happens of any significance when we’re in our comfort zone. I hear people say, “But I’m concerned about security.” My response to that is simple: “Security is for cadavers.”
Example: Get out of your fitness comfort zone. Start being active. Do any exercise, get out of your house, step into the gym for the first time, go to a new class. Keep extending your comfort zone, do exercise that you consider hard, be uncomfortable all the time by trying new things as only this will make significant changes for you. Move on to training harder, heavier, doing more reps, extending training time. Do not rest on laurels and progress and success will come.
2. Never give up. Almost nothing works the first time it’s attempted. Just because what you’re doing does not seem to be working, doesn’t mean it won’t work. It just means that it might not work the way you’re doing it. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it, and you wouldn’t have an opportunity.
Example: You are trying to lose weight, prepare for some kind of contest, increase your strength, develop muscle, build a 6 pack, etc, but you seem to have little results. You may start blaming others, your genes etc, (so generally blaming others 😛 ) but you need to just stop this. Then think, what else you can do to get the result you want, do not give up, just think that you can have what you want. And because something is not working, make a decision how you will change your plan, and get what you want. (lots of options such as – get coach, diet, cook, gym buddy, personal trainer, do more research, give yourself more time, track your food and exercise and review it weekly). Don’t give up, it will work eventually. Find your way.
3. When you’re ready to quit, you’re closer than you think. There’s an old Chinese saying that I just love, and I believe it is so true. It goes like this: “The temptation to quit will be greatest just before you are about to succeed.”
Example: I think this must be my favourite of Bob Parsons 16 rules of success… I was on a cutting diet before my first bikini fitness contest, I was eating very clean and saying no to all the yummy food, alcohol and cream eggs. But despite hard work I didn’t see the results. It was disappointing, but then that evening when I thought I’m close to giving up an article written by fitness model Pauline Nordin popped out on my Facebook wall. It said that there will be days, weeks or months when you will think there is no progress, but the changes will be happening in the background. You need to stick to your plan, no matter what. And then she said one day you wake up and will look in the mirror, and then you will SEE IT. See that extra fat melted away or that muscle getting bigger. And then she said what if I told you, that day will be tomorrow, would you still want to give up today?? I had tears in my eyes, because I had a really tough day in terms of motivation and she said exactly what I needed to hear. And next day, I did not see the progress I wanted to see, but I did not quit either. I saw progress few weeks later. And maybe approx. 2 months from then I got a 2nd place in UKBFF bikini fitness contest…
Note to non contestants/beginners – you have started exercise, progress is slow, but you need to keep going, do not think for a minute that the changes are not happening in your body, you may not see them yet, they may be shy and slow, but they are happening, they must be, because you are doing something different with your every day, your course has been changed, even if just slightly. Now you are just like a seed that needs to be watered and needs some time and sun and care before it gets through the soil and grows to a beautiful flower. You rock xx … or I should say flower 😛
4. With regard to whatever worries you, not only accept the worst thing that could happen, but make it a point to quantify what the worst thing could be. Very seldom will the worst consequence be anywhere near as bad as a cloud of “undefined consequences.” My father would tell me early on, when I was struggling and losing my shirt trying to get Parsons Technology going, “Well, Robert, if it doesn’t work, they can’t eat you.”
Example: do not let the fear of things that may go wrong stop you from doing anything at all!! OK so you may look silly in your gym clothes, not know how to use the equipment for few first days, end up on someone’s youtube channel under ‘best gym fails’ 😀 it may all go wrong on the contest day, you bikini falls off (luckily your body should look better naked by then anyway), you’ll trip, your tan will go wrong, think – really – what is the worst thing that can happen. So now you know what can come your way in the worst case scenario, is it really that bad? Do you really want to waste energy stressing out about it or even worse, being stressed AND not doing anything because of fear? Define the worst case scenario/s and off you go.
5. Focus on what you want to have happen. Remember that old saying, “As you think, so shall you be.”
Example: I don’t know how this is true, but who cares, it works. Do not think you don’t want to be fat, slow, weak. Just ignore these words. Instead, focus on who you want to be, all your energy and state on mind need to be ‘bathed’ in outcome that you actually want. You want to be healthy, slim, lean, shredded, fast, strong etc. Every day, as often as you can, but definitely in the morning and before going to bed, spend at least 10 minutes to imagine yourself the way you want to be. How I did it – at night I would stand by the window and imagined that I was a warrior princess looking through the wall in my castle over the city and I would stand tall and strong, trying to feel as if I was very muscular in every part of my body, but muscular in a feminine way, like Neytiri from Avatar, just not blue 😛 And every time I went for a walk I walked very straight as if I had well developed back and abs muscles. I didn’t see the fat on my abs, I knew that underneath I’m fit, and that it is normal that it will take some time before I see my abs. Mind-set is everything, the body will catch up.
6. Take things a day at a time. No matter how difficult your situation is, you can get through it if you don’t look too far into the future, and focus on the present moment. You can get through anything one day at a time.
Example: When you are starting off everything seems difficult, overwhelming, you think too far ahead and ask yourself omg will my life be always like that now, I have to exercise everyday or my muscles will disappear, I have to be on diet and say no to chocolate for the REST OF MY LIFE?? how will I prepare so many meals when I have kids in 5 years time, my muscles are so sore, I feel weak, wow there is so much information out there what do I do with all this. OK the list can go on. Stop it. The day you are currently in is not that hard to go through, can you really – really – really not make it till bed time? Focus on today, tomorrow you will focus on tomorrow. And so on.
7. Always be moving forward. Never stop investing. Never stop improving. Never stop doing something new. The moment you stop improving your organization, it starts to die. Make it your goal to be better each and every day, in some small way. Remember the Japanese concept of Kaizen. Small daily improvements eventually result in huge advantages.
Example: make small improvements in your workouts, diet and mind-set. Not everything has to and can be done daily, but just keep going forward. Make every rep, every step count, perfect your technique in even simplest move, control your breathing, focus on the exercised group of muscles, eat cleaner with every day, learn about nutrition and what works for you, experiment with different food, listen to your body, notice little signs it gives you such as when you have most energy, what makes you feel best, meditate. Just gradually turn your body into one perfect machine that it intended to be. And about investing, well don’t forget nothing feels as good as new gym clothes from Victoria’s Secret 😀 (note to girls).
8. Be quick to decide. Remember what the Union Civil War general, Tecumseh Sherman said: “A good plan violently executed today is far and away better than a perfect plan tomorrow.”
Example: you have been planning to start working out for a few months now. How you will train, what your diet will look like, you needs to save some money for gym clothes, new trainers and gym membership. OK maybe you will be ready before Xmas. Stop. Start now, where you are, with what you have and don’t have and with the knowledge you have now. You will still be better off by Xmas if you start with imperfect plan today than if you start at Xmas with perfect plan. This applies to any kind of plan in the world that you may come up with. Can you see it? (and anyways who starts diet on Xmas?! apart from me 😛 ).
This if first half of Bob Parsons 16 rules of success, more to follow another time. Questions, comments, advice? Shoot!